What really matters for success, character, happiness and life long achievements is a definite set of emotional skills – your EQ — not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional IQ tests.” — Daniel Goleman
What is emotional intelligence? Why does it matter more than Intelligence quotient?
The simple meaning of emotional intelligence is the best use of your creative emotions and intelligence to assess the emotions of ourselves and people around us in a mutual- beneficial way. Robert K. Cooper. Ph.D. defines EQ as,
“Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection, and influence.”
Minds and emotions are strongly linked and they do overlap each other at occasions.
Eric Jensen says, “There is no separation of mind and emotions; emotions, thinking, and learning is all linked.” We need to create a balance between these to conflicting forces remain in a state of war all the time in our brain.
This is the reason why greatest battles are fought within us. Travis Bradberry and Jeans Graves write in their popular book,’ the rational area of your brain (the front of your brain can’t stop the emotions “felt” by your limbic system, but the two systems do influence the each other and make constant communication.
The communication between the rational and emotional “ brains” is the physical source of emotional brains. It is said common sense is not so common as perceived.
Similar is the case regarding EQ level, its estimated 36% in the Western world, you can think where self-discovery does stand in the third world?
It simple means 64% do not know even themselves, what to say for others! It accedes the psychological theory that 50% do not know about ourselves.
Perhaps this is the reason behind the Divine statement, “ one who recognizes himself, he recognizes Him. During my practice, perversely, I have to frequently deal with the many highly-educated and well-travelled persons low on emotional intelligence.
An American survey report unveiled the people higher on the index of IQ level bettered those had average IQ level just by 20% but the 70% with an average IQ level out-performed those high on IQ level. This survey revealed IQ level is not a sure sign for success. It’s further estimated that EQ accounted for 58% success in all kinds of Jobs.
And the link between EQ and earnings is so direct that every EQ point adds $1300 to an annual remuneration. 90% of high performers were also found high on the EQ level.
Coming to the kernel, there are 5 variables of emotional intelligence i.e motivation, self-awareness, self-management, public awareness, and public management. It’s path-breaking research to relate all the variables with features of hands to get a quick score of EQ level at any age.
They have a perfect relation with the fingers. The thumb is the significator of motivations and will power.
The third variable is self-regulations reflected by the middle finger. The middle finger slanting to the sun finger or extra-large loses the score of this variable. Twisted and small finger never seen good at intimacy and public management due to communication issues. Are the other signs like mounts, skin and lines have nothing to do with it? They are but their role is complementary to the prime significators, the fingers.
By Ghulam Murtaza (GM)
