Real affection: More good than bad | By Dr Rajkumar Singh, Bihar


Real affection: More good than bad


AFFECTION is a feeling of fondness or tendeness towards someone or something. It is an emotion that is characterised by feelings of warmth, tenderness and caring.

Affection is typically expressed through physical gestures such as hugs, kisses, or hand-holding, as well as through verbal expression of love and endearment.

Affection can be shown towards people, animals or inanimate objects and is often a key component of close relationships such as friendships, romantic relationships, and familial relationships.

It can start in a variety of ways. It can be spontaneous and sudden, or it can develop gradually overtime.

Some people may feel affection towards someone right away, while others may take longer to develop strong feelings of affection.

In some cases, affection may be sparked by a strong emotional connection or shared experience.

For example, if two people have a deep conversation that they both find meaningful, they may feel a sense of affection towards each other.

Similarly, if two people go through a difficult experience together and support each other through it, they may develop feelings of affection for one another.

In other cases, affection may be sparked by physical attraction. People may feel affection for someone they find physically attractive or appealing.

Ultimately, the development of affection is a complex process that can be influenced by a variety of factors, including emotional connection, shared experiences, and physical attraction.

Initial backup and kinds: Affection can have many positive effects on both the person experiencing it and the person showing it.

Some of the effects of affection include:

(i). Improved mental health: Affection can boost mood and reduce stress, anxiety, and depression.

(ii). Increased self-esteem: Receiving affection can make a person feel valued and loved, which can improve self-esteem.

(iii). Improved physical health: Affection can reduce blood pressure and improve overall physical health.

(iv). Enhanced social connections: Affection can strengthen social bonds and improve relationships.

(v). Increased happiness: Affection can increase feelings of happiness and contentment. Increased productivity and lastly.

(vi). Affection can improve motivation and productivity. Overall, affection can have a range of positive effects on mental and physical health and can enhance social connections and overall well-being.

There are many different kinds of affection that people can show towards one another.

Some common forms of affection include:

(i).Physical affection: This can include things like hugging, holding hands, and kissing.

(ii). Verbal affection: This can include words of love and appreciation, as well as expressions of support and encouragement.

(iii). Emotional affection: This can include showing understanding, compassion, and caring towards someone, and being there for them during difficult times.

(iv). Material affection: This can include giving gifts or doing things for someone to show that you care about them.

(v). Acts of service: This can include doing things for someone to help them out or make their life easier, such as cooking a meal or running errands.

Overall, affection can be a way of showing love and appreciation towards someone, and can be an important part of relationships and connections with others.

Effects: Positive and negative: Affection can generally be seen as a positive emotion that brings people closer together and enhances relationships.

However, like all emotions, there can be both positive and negative sides to affection. Some positive aspects of affection include:

(i). Improved mental and physical. health.

(ii). Enhanced social connections and relationships.

(iii). Increased happiness and contentment

(iv). Improved motivation and productivity.

However, there can also be negative aspects to affection, particularly if it is not expressed in a healthy or appropriate way.

Some negative aspects of affection are:

(i). Possessiveness or jealousy: If a person is overly possessive or jealous in their affection towards someone, it can be unhealthy and cause problems in the relationship.

(ii).Lack of boundaries: If a person is overly affectionate and does not respect the other person’s boundaries, it can be uncomfortable or even abusive.

(iii) .Dependence: If a person becomes too reliant on affection and cannot function without it, it can lead to co-dependency and other unhealthy patterns.

It is important to express affection in a healthy and appropriate way, and to be mindful of the potential negative aspects of affection.

Difference between love and affection: Love and affection are related emotions, but they are not the same thing.

Love is a strong feeling of deep attachment or emotional connection towards someone or something.

It is often characterised by feelings of warmth, tenderness, and caring, and it can be an intense and powerful emotion.

Love is often seen as a long-term commitment and can involve deep attachment, loyalty, and respect.

While love and affection are related emotions, they can be experienced separately or together.

It is possible to feel affection towards someone without being in love with them, and it is also possible to feel love towards someone without always expressing it through affectionate gestures or words.

In the context, as a rule sometimes these two words ‘love and affection are interchangeable to indicate warm, positive feelings directed to individuals, pets institutions, things, activities and ideas.

Earlier, in the 18th and 19th centuries, several psychologists like William James and William WcDougall have recognised the existence of emotions and sentiments.

Sigmund Freud who was contemporary of others, put the love in central position and called it a derivative force of life, although in later phase of laboratory investigation John B Watson reported three instincts of primary emotions-love fear and rage.

In matters of affection, several developments took place and five main systems were discovered:

(i). Infant-mother affectional system.

(ii). Infant-infant, or peer system.

(iii). Heterosexual affectional system.

(iv). Mother-infant, or maternal affectional system and

(v). Father-infant, or paternal affectional system. These all constitute essential ingredients of love and affection.

— The writer is Professor and Head, Department of Political Science, B N Mandal University, Madhepura, Bihar, India.