Your word should be enough..!

MANY years ago while working for my father who was an interior designer we were asked to do the home of a suspected smuggler. I was wary and very hesitant while settling the deal and asked the man fro a huge advance. “Why?” he laughed, “because I am a smuggler?”
I stammered something about it being standard company policy but the man only laughed, “Bob,” he said and the very way he said my name made shivers run down my young spine, “when I do business and I think you know the type of business I do, I settle everything with my word and a handshake!” He then extended his hand, and I took it. The man paid every penny.
After that I’ve tried to do the same in my business dealings and other aspects of my life: I admit I’ve failed miserably at times, and then I tell myself if a smuggler could run his life on his word then more so should I! I also realized to be truthful also means you had to have integrity and character and that needs a constant working at.. More than ever today I meet people who give me their word on phone or even face to face and say a few days later they never said or agreed to something or other.
In his autobiography Days of Grace (Random House Audio, 1993), tennis great Arthur Ashe relates a defining incident that occurred when he was 17 years old. He was playing in a tournament in West Virginia. As was often the case, he was the only contestant of color in the tournament.
One night, some of the kids trashed a cabin. They absolutely destroyed it and then decided to say that Arthur was responsible. The incident was reported in the newspapers; Arthur denied his involvement, but the boys would not change their story. The worst part for Arthur was worrying about what his father would say and do. He eventually made the dreaded phone call.
As he surmised, his father had already learned of the vandalism. His father’s tone was grim. He asked Arthur only one question. “Arthur Junior,” he asked, “all I want to know is…were you mixed up in that mess?”
Arthur answered, “No, Daddy, I wasn’t.” His father never asked about it again. Arthur learned that day why he had always been encouraged to tell the truth. There would come a time when he must be believed, and this was such a time. Because he had already earned his trust and respect, he knew his father believed him. From that day on he was determined, above all else, to live a life of integrity.
Unfortunately, we find notable examples of modern leaders in every field who give low priority to personal integrity. But we do not need saints – we need people like you: People who will be known for their integrity; people who will determine to be their best selves; people who daily earn the trust and respect of others, regardless of their age or station in life; people who insist on importance of character.
Our world may not need another saint, it needs ordinary people like you and me, remember it was a smuggler who taught me that my word and a handshake was all that was required..!
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