Your neighbour’s wife..!
“Yes dear, I’ve noticed you’ve been looking at him everyday, what is it you find good about him, not his looks I am sure?” “Maybe he isn’t as good looking as you husband, but he sure makes up in other ways!” “And what other ways?” “Just look at his garden, he spends so much of time, making his home look so beautiful from the outside, and also the way he looks at his wife with such adoration, whereas you…” Since the two neighbours lived across the street from each other, from their living room windows, each was able to observe the activities of the other’s family.
One day, a few days later, as she met her neighbour, Sheila confessed she’d been watching what went on in Aruna’s front garden and that she envied her. “I don’t know what you mean,” Aruna said with a puzzled look on her face. “I wish my husband was half as nice as yours,” she said. “I also see him out in the front tending the garden, and I wish my husband would do the same thing,” Sheila said. “Your garden is beautiful!” Aruna laughed and then made her confession. “I’ve been doing the same thing Sheila,” she said. “I watch your husband in your front garden, and I have envied you!”
Sheila shook her head with disbelief. “What on earth do you mean?” she asked. Aruna continued, “I watched him carrying your toddler home last night. How caring he was. I see him playing ball with him so nicely too. How I wish my husband, would do the same thing! He never wants our children in the way when he gardens.”
That evening as Sheila sat at home waiting for her husband, she asked herself, “Be honest, would you rather have your husband play with your son, and help look after him, then someone who looks at you with adoration, maybe because you look like his well laid out garden? ”
She had not thought of that before, and realized that her neighbour’s husband might have the best garden in the world, make eyes at his wife all the time, but her own man had so many wonderful, meaningful and hidden qualities. She also knew her son was a little bundle of joy because of the time he gave the little fellow. She looked away from that day!
How often we enviously look across at our neighbour, blind to our own blessings that are so obvious to others. Let us cultivate the habit of concentrating on our own blessings rather than brooding over how our neighbour’s wife or husband is..!