Accepting defeat gracefully..!


PERSONALLY, this is not something I find easy to write on, because there have been innumerable times in my life when I’ve not accepted defeat well. It isn’t easy, especially when you have all your hopes bottled into the idea you are a winner, that you deserve to win, and life is unfair in making you lose.
I was just watching a video of the latest Oscars which took place on Sunday, and saw how the host announced the wrong winner of the Best Picture Award: Instead of announcing the prize for ‘Moonlight’ he announced, ‘La La Land’. Warren Beatty and Faye Dunaway then presented the award to the producers of the wrong movie. They started delivering the acceptance speech, when the hosts ran up and announced to the startled audience that the wrong winner had been announced and the award should go to ‘Moonlight!’
But what was so beautiful, was how the producers of La La Land, “gracefully” handed over their trophies to the winning team! The word is ‘graceful’! Can you imagine how they must have felt? One moment victory, the next moment, defeat! One moment absolute joy, the next deep disappointment! But it’s during this moment of defeat the world looks to see how you take it: In fact more eyes are focused on you the loser, then you the winner, and when you are graceful in defeat, you are a winner in the eyes of the world. Like I said at the beginning, this is not a subject I find easy to write one, because more often than not, I have lost badly and been pretty angry about my defeat.
I remember many years ago, twenty- five years ago to be precise, I was standing for the post of area chairman of an international organization. There was a tie, and the outgoing chairman threw his casting vote in favour of the other candidate. I was furious, disappointed and bitter, and till date it is that behavior of mine that my friends remember.
The post was only for a year, but the memories of my angry reaction is remembered to this day. That’s the time you are most vulnerable. That’s the time, you have been hit on the head and you want to hit back like a wounded animal, but when you don’t, when you get up from the depth of despair and shake hands with your opponent, that memory will remain in the minds of all forever.
As much as we train ourselves to be winners, train yourself diligently to accept defeat! People may not remember who won the Oscar in 2017 ten or even five from now, but they’ll always remember how a defeated producer gave up his trophy gracefully..!
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